Overcome - A Mental Health Podcast

The Power of Routine in Sobriety: Jordan Turbyfill’s Mental Health Transformation

• Travis White | Mental Health Advocate • Episode 33

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In this episode of Overcome: A Mental Health Podcast, Jordan Turbyfill opens up about his journey from addiction to recovery and how building a sobriety routine for mental health completely transformed his life.

Growing up in a home impacted by addiction, Jordan turned to alcohol at a young age, leading to blackouts, multiple DUIs, and years of negative self-talk. After hitting rock bottom, he committed to creating a consistent sobriety routine for mental health—one built on daily wins, self-discipline, and forgiveness.

Jordan shares how simple actions like morning workouts, positive self-talk, and structured habits not only helped him stay sober but also rebuilt his confidence, strengthened his family relationships, and inspired him to help others. His story shows how a sobriety routine for mental health can break cycles of trauma, fuel resilience, and lead to lasting recovery.

What We Discussed

  • Jordan’s childhood and the impact of growing up with addiction in the home
  • How alcohol abuse led to blackouts, DUIs, and rock bottom moments
  • Why a sobriety routine for mental health is the key to long-term recovery
  • The role of daily habits like exercise, self-talk, and morning structure
  • The power of forgiveness in breaking free from anger and resentment
  • Lessons on grit, persistence, and rebuilding family relationships
  • How Jordan now uses his experience to mentor and inspire others

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Travis White (00:01)
Hello and welcome to Overcome a Mental Health Podcast, a place where you can share your mental health stories. I'm very excited for tonight's guest. I'm speaking with Jordan Turbyfill. Jordan is coming on to talk about some of his childhood experiences and how he was able to develop a mindset to overcome negative thoughts and turn everything into positive action through solid everyday routine.

Jordan, why don't you just go ahead and get us started with your journey.

Jordan Turbyfill (00:30)
Travis, appreciate you having me on. So one of the main things for me growing up as a kid, my mom was a meth addict and alcoholic. And I never really understood that portion of it until I got to the age of like 17, 18. And at that point, I really just kind of started to fall into

her footsteps by trying to chase pleasure over chasing purpose. And in chasing pleasure, I would essentially drink myself into a coma and black out. The first time I drank alcohol, I blacked out. Second time I blacked out. And it was always very tough. I had a lot of negative thinking.

I really took the whole situation as, pour me, pour me, pour me, and just continue to drink until I got arrested and essentially, you know, got a DUI and thrown in jail. And sitting in jail is where I really kind of slowed down my thought process and just kind of like looked around the room and, and gathered myself, you know?

From there, pretty much started my change of realizing the only way to prevent myself from continuing to go down that path and even go further down that path was to completely cut out alcohol. So immediately when I got out of jail, I haven't drank since. I'll be nine years sober November 21st.

Every year has been a massive year of growth for me. You know, the first year was extremely hard. I had suicidal thoughts. thought, you know, more of the poor me bullshit, but this time I was just sober thinking it, you know? And every year I feel like I've taken a step further and further in the right direction. Probably three years ago,

I really started focusing on my daily routine and how to raise my frequency to where I can hire that frequency before I interact with anybody. being able to do that, know, nobody, nobody wants to go to the gym every single day. If anyone says that they want to go to the gym every single day, they're lying out their ass straight up. You know, I've been to the gym.

90 days in a row and on that 91st day I sat in the parking lot for an hour trying to talk myself out of it and then Going back and forth with myself about whether or not I should go in eventually you know every time that you break that cycle of like Just pushing through that mental pain every time it gets easier and easier To break through and that voice gets quieter and quieter. So you're

To me, we gotta like align our conscious with our subconscious. Because you'll get in those interactions where you really, your conscious is telling you to do something that you have planned and then your subconscious will try and protect you and be like, no, you've worked hard enough today. No, you moved all these pallets of tiles. You can take a rest day today. But if you just continue to push through those mental blocks or your subconscious coming to protect you.

you eventually grow and grow and just continue to grow and grow and grow. So that's pretty much what I've done.

Travis White (04:09)
What do do to push through those mental blocks?

Jordan Turbyfill (04:10)
Go ahead.

You know, a lot of times I just, I'm just patient with myself. Sometimes I'll get a little hard on myself, but I would say too, in the past I would get really negative with myself, you know? And I feel like being negative about it is the worst way, because that negative will grow.

What I like to do is I'll be hard on myself, but it's in a positive way. Like you can do this shit. You did it yesterday. You did it day before. Like quit being a baby. Quit crying about it. Like you can do this, you know, before I would sit there and just be like, you know, you're, you're a piece of shit. You know, I would try and like get myself, fired up in a way. But what I kind of realized too throughout this whole process is like,

anger is a strength and like hatred is a strength that can be used as fuel, but eventually it burns out. And the thing that never burns out is love. And if you use like love and forgiveness, man, that's like a fuel that will just burn so deep and, ⁓ give you so much energy to do the things that you really want to do. So if there's like.

somebody motivating you, if somebody's listening to this and somebody's motivating you to like want to go work out because you hate them, forgive them and love them. And I know that's like the hardest thing to say, but once you do that and you just start loving yourself for forgiving them, you're going to see how much further you're able to push yourself compared to when you're just lifting because you hate that person.

And I've seen it so many times, just me going to the gym when I first started. I had a couple like business relationships that kind of fell out and that's what I would do. I I would, I would take their hatred towards me and I would be like, you know,

destroy that person or whatever, you know, and ⁓

Like I said, that energy will burn you out quicker than anything. So just go forward with love and kindness and forgiveness. yeah.

Travis White (06:26)
Yeah, and that's honestly a hard lesson to learn. Like I personally have struggled with negative thoughts myself. And I can't tell you how many times that I've told myself, you know, you're a piece of shit. Like you don't matter. Like nothing you do is good enough. And I honestly don't believe it was until the last year that I was actually able to turn those thoughts around and start building myself up. And it's just a work of progress. Like you have to work on it every day.

Jordan Turbyfill (06:34)
Yeah.

yeah.

100%. It's something that like, and that's why I say the daily routine because you know, what I like to do daily is wake up early, get like burpees in first thing in the morning. So you're getting your blood flowing and just getting like a little bit of pump and you start feeling better about yourself immediately. You know, it's not something that I love to do, you know, but I love the way that it makes me feel.

and I love the energy that it brings me to that I can offer everyone else around me. know, and what you said, I used to struggle with the exact same thing. And when I first started this whole process, like my relationship with my wife and I wasn't the most perfect relationship. And a lot of times I would find myself saying the exact same things that you're talking about, where I would be like,

you're a piece of shit, never do enough, you know? And I'd just be beating myself down. And now in turn, I'm like, like if I, if I need a second to like catch my breath, you know, step out of the room, catch my breath, instead of having those types of thoughts, I'm like, all right, what else can I do? What else can I do? What more can I do? You can do more. I know I can do more. All right, let's do more, you know? And I'll just jump up and start doing more. And the more I've done that over the past, I feel like it's,

Instead of me taking my energy and going towards the other person or you know in this situation my my wife it has helped her to come closer to where I'm at you know and it's helped her to do more and like she started her own business and she's been thriving in her own business. She's such an incredible mom and stuff like that so

Travis White (08:34)
Sorry, I didn't mean you can finish your thought. I was gonna say that's really cool to hear that like because you turned around and worked on yourself that your relationship grew to become better. You became better partners.

Jordan Turbyfill (08:35)
No, go ahead. Go ahead.

100 %

and like the hardest thing for me because you know I did I did five four five six years Completely sober, but my mindset was still off you know and I would still have those similar thoughts of what like what you're talking about and I would also You know just constantly like Catch myself like saying the wrong things or like lowering myself

Travis White (09:00)
Mm-hmm.

Jordan Turbyfill (09:15)
lowering my vibration to go negative and join in the argument instead of being more solution oriented. I think I can't give myself all the credit. Obviously my wife has been doing all the work herself as well. But I think as a man, we have to lead in the family dynamic. And when we do that,

they're more likely to come closer to this side and be more positive and be more happy, you know.

Travis White (09:49)
Now, if you're willing, I want to go back a little bit. If you're willing to talk, take us back to your childhood. Like, with your mom being a meth addict, I'm sure it was a lot different than I would think. So what did the normal look like for you growing up?

Jordan Turbyfill (09:52)
Yeah, absolutely.

you know, the normal for me was constantly getting evicted from apartments because my mom wouldn't pay the bills because she'd spend it on drugs and alcohol. it was, know, me and my four other siblings or three other siblings living in a tiny one bedroom apartment with no furniture. And, pretty much all of us.

having such a small amount of food in the house that if any one of us ate too much food, the rest of us would pretty much beat the crap out of the person who ate too much food. I was walking to, you know, probably like two, three miles to school every day because we didn't have a vehicle or gas at the time or whatever the situation would be.

What else I mean?

Constantly, just constant, you know, my mom would come home three in the morning, cracked out of her mind, drunk as hell, beating the living crap out of all of us, bringing men home that would be abusive to her to the point to where, you know, when I was 10 years old, I slashed my first tire and that was a guy that had put his hands on my mom.

Travis White (10:59)
soon.

Jordan Turbyfill (11:23)
me and my two older brothers went and slashed all of his tires and then went to his other house and like threw a brick through his window and slashed his other tires. And you know, we just had a lot of anger and we're filled with evil because we didn't know any better, you know? And it hurt us a lot and we didn't know how to take that pain and channel it into something positive.

Travis White (11:48)
Yeah,

it sounds like you just spent a lot of years in survival mode, trying to work your way through life.

Jordan Turbyfill (11:53)
Yeah.

Yeah, 100%. And like, you know, it all, it all really hit me a lot my senior year of high school because, you know, I, I had, I hadn't seen my mom because, ⁓ my brother and I, used to, we used to fight like crazy. I don't know if the camera can see that, but I got a scar from like probably like here all the way down to here. And, my brother and I,

Travis White (12:17)
Yeah, I can see it.

Jordan Turbyfill (12:21)
um, who are closest in age. We used to just beat the living hell out of each other. I mean, I should say he would beat the living hell out of me and I would just try and get as many punches in as I could because he was, uh, you know, just twice my size always. And, um, once that happened, uh, my dad got, regot custody of my brother and I. So we moved back in with him and, uh, I didn't see my mom for

Four years and then all of sudden she just shows up at my high school and just like walks on campus and she's like all Cracked out of her head begging for money and stuff and it's the hardest thing, you know to to see It's you know drugs and drugs and alcohol Might make you feel good, but they'll rob you of your life

and of everything you've ever loved, you know, and not just for a small period of time, they'll rob you of it forever. And they'll rob you of the time with your kids and you'll never get that time back, you know? So the best way for me, like I said earlier, was like, all I wanted to do was like numb myself, you know? And, you know, I never fell into doing meth.

or doing really any hard drugs, but alcohol got a good hold of me for five, six years and I really drank a lot and would do the dumbest things and just be, you know, just completely embarrassed myself and, you know, just crush my own confidence, make me feel even worse.

So then when I would be still bring up the next couple days, it would just be so many negative thoughts of like, you're a pile of crap, you're going to hell, or just all the worst things that you could say to yourself.

Travis White (14:10)
So you'd mentioned before that it was a DUI and since that you got arrested, that's kind of your breaking point of like I need to be sober. Was it your second DUI?

Jordan Turbyfill (14:21)
Yeah, so it was actually my second DUI.

My first one I quit for a year and then I started up again. quickly, know, once alcohol gets a hold of you...

It's a slippery slope and you'll go from, know, I would tell myself, all right, I'm going to drink only one day a year on my birthday. And then a month later, I'm going to drink, you know, once a month. And then, you know, a month after that, I'm only going to drink once every two weeks. And then it's once a weekend. And then it's, you know, I'm going to drink. It ended up being like pretty much every day. I had a bottle at home of,

and I can't even remember what I would drink. I would just get like a big handle of liquor and a 30 pack of beer and I would come home. As soon as I'd get home from work, I'd take a couple of shots and then open a beer. four hours later, I'm like six, seven beers deep on a Monday night when I have work on Tuesday. ⁓

Travis White (15:24)
That's crazy.

Was that a nightly thing?

Jordan Turbyfill (15:28)
Yeah, that was a nightly thing, 100%. And then on the weekends, like Thursday, Friday, Saturday, it was 10 times worse. I would be 10 o'clock in the morning taking shots, shotgun and beers, sometimes shotgun and multiple beers in a row. And then just blacking out and just having people tell me what I did the next day.

and telling me all kinds of crazy stories and it was like, man, this is terrible, you know? And then eventually I got my second DUI and I had to actually get sober before I was, before my court hearing because well, I didn't have to, but my attorney told me that it was in my best interest to try and lesser my jail time to get sober and show that I've been to.

meetings every day. So that's all I cared about. And I was like, all right, I'm going to do this just so I can get a lesser sentence, you know? And because it was my second DUI and both times I blew over three times the legal limit, they pretty much threw the book at me, gave me jail time in downtown LA in California. And

They put me on a bus and shackled me up and, you know, I was like, never. The only times I've ever been in trouble with the law was both times I got a DUI, you know, so I wasn't the type of person that was out doing things to, to, end up there besides drinking. And, once I was on that bus, it was just like, holy shit, like damn.

Travis White (16:59)
Yeah.

Okay.

Jordan Turbyfill (17:06)
where did I get my, like what did I get myself into, you know?

Travis White (17:10)
Yeah,

it's like an awakening of some sort.

Jordan Turbyfill (17:13)
Yeah.

yeah. Yeah. I mean, the scariest thing there was like, you know, I'm, I'm five foot seven. at the time I was probably like 150 pounds and there's probably 120 people at a time that goes through intake and, they had us in this really large room that was like shaped like a rectangle and it's just all walls. There's nothing else in there. And so they had everyone just sitting around.

with their backs up against the wall waiting to go through the whole process.

You know, you start looking around the room and it's like, man, I feel like I don't fit in here. Like this is crazy. But here I am, you know, you, and I'm just sitting there talking to myself, saying these things like you deserve to be here. Like, I know, I know you're looking around and you don't think you deserve to be here, but you definitely deserve to be here, you know? And, ⁓ yeah, it was just, it was a shocker for sure.

Travis White (18:10)
Yeah, that'd be rough. can't even imagine. So, but when you started to like rebuild your mental framework, is there like a kind of a first, what were like some of the first small things that you remember actually making a difference?

Jordan Turbyfill (18:25)
So actually, one of the things that was one of the biggest changes or things that somebody said to me that really clicked was actually through the DUI program in California, they assigned me to a class where I had to go sit and listen to a doctor at a hospital. And that doctor

didn't know who it was at the time, but the doctor that ended up doing it was like a neurologist. And so he took it upon himself to like explain to us, look, your brain, you control your brain. Your brain is the most powerful tool in the world. There's nobody that can recreate a brain, but you have complete control of your brain. So, and he showed us a couple of things. Like one of the biggest things was

Think about somebody who's Drinking lowers your ability to control your brain and control all your functions, like your reactions. For example, if you're driving down the highway and you're drunk and you see a cop on the side of the road with his lights on, you're immediately going to focus on those lights because of what? You don't want to get pulled over again.

You know, and that's why you see so many cops get rear ended on the highway is because whatever you focus on is what you're going to tend to veer towards. So if you want to be successful or you want to be positive, you got to focus on being successful and focus on being positive and all the shit that's in your past. You got to just, it's okay to glance back, but just think like that's why the rear view mirror is small. Like just glance back at it.

You don't need to sit there and focus on the rear view mirror. If you're driving, looking in the rear view mirror, you're going to get in a car accident. You know, you're going to kill yourself. So when, like, when he kind of worded it like that, it was like, damn, that's a great, like, that's a great way to put it, you know? So I started to just really focus on what I could do every day and what I can control. And that's, you know, there's going to be people that are

you know, in life that are going to try and backstab you or take you down or all the worst things, you know. You can sit there and try and focus on it and prevent it, but focusing on things like that is going to attract those type of people around you. You can focus on being the best version of yourself and you're going to attract people that want the best version of themselves.

and then you're just gonna vibe off each other and continue to grow. You know what I mean? So.

Travis White (21:10)
It's kind

of crazy like how those vibrations really play a role into that type of situation too.

Jordan Turbyfill (21:16)
100%. Yeah, 100%.

Travis White (21:20)
Because I can I can recall like people in high school which was a long time ago for me now but I can recall like being in a room full people and be like you know what this this kid just gives me like there's something off about him I don't want to be here anymore.

Jordan Turbyfill (21:34)
Oh yeah, yeah, and it just makes you not want to do things or, and that's, know, I'm a business owner now. And, um, one of the things that, that I realized before I became a business owner was like, you know, everything starts from the top and trickles down. So if you have an owner who's a drunk or somebody like that, who's, uh, kind of, kind of being the anchor and pulling everyone else down, well, the whole business is going to go.

bottom up and sink. know, so the to me the best thing I feel like I can do for my guys is be that positive, hard working, showing up every day. No job is like too big for me. And just have that mentality because if I'm that way, everyone's going to see that type of energy and they're going to reflect it. You know what I mean? So

That's kind of how I operate my business as well. I love the guys that I have working for me now and they're all great family men that bust their ass to try and provide for their kids and try and be good parents and role models.

Travis White (22:46)
That's a really cool style of leadership though, is being willing to get down there and actually do the same work that they're doing, because it builds trust and relationships.

Jordan Turbyfill (22:50)
Yeah.

yeah, yeah, 100%. Yeah, it just builds, you know, that's the other thing too, is like, working like physical labor, doing it alongside somebody will bring you so much closer. Because when you get to those tired points, and you start seeing everyone pushing through those tired points, it's like, damn, all right, we're like, we're like family now, you know what I mean? So.

I love that part of doing, you know, hardwood tile.

Travis White (23:28)
So if there's somebody like that's listening, that's kind of the headspace of, you know, just surviving, just going through the motions, what's one thing they could do today to start shifting into living more positively?

Jordan Turbyfill (23:42)
I would say the first thing I would do, like say for instance if I was talking to myself 10 years ago, the first thing I would do is say, do 100 burpees straight and tell me how you feel. Tell me how much more pride you have in who you are. And then just make it a routine. Make it a daily routine and don't push it off to the end of the day. Do it in the very beginning and start every day.

by adding positive things that you do every morning to stack wins. You know what I mean? And if you get, you wake up, you make your bed, say you wake up at 5 a.m. at your alarm clock, there's one win. You make your bed, there's two. You read your book or your Bible or whatever it may be. Read something for yourself. There's three. You do your burpees, there's four. Take your shower and you get clean and presentable.

get dressed nice, there's five. And then you go out and interact with people and tell me how much more attention you get because of you're gonna be drawing people towards you instead of bringing that negative energy, which negative energy is gonna repel anyone who has positive energy. You know what I mean? So if you wanna attract those higher type positions or jobs,

or roles in life, the best thing that you can do is raise that vibration and stack those wings.

Travis White (25:09)
That's awesome. I love that. A lot of good pieces of information to take in from that. I love it. I know I'm repeating myself, but it's all really good. Getting in that mindset though, just to repeat it and have it become a habit, it's challenging.

Jordan Turbyfill (25:15)
yeah.

Yeah, you gotta, I mean, you gotta do it, you know?

Yeah.

Yeah. One of the other things that I tell myself too, cause you know, I'm human. I'm not perfect. I've, I've missed days. I've, I've had days where, where, you know, my mind got the best of me still. but even then it's get right back on the horse. You know, it's okay. You missed a day. Who gives a shit? Get right back on the horse and keep going.

Because if not, you're gonna fall way back into that person that you used to be that you hate. So the best thing that we can do when we falter and we have that day where we mess, just get right back on the horse. Forgive yourself, love yourself, get right back on the horse and keep riding. yeah, I think...

I think everyone should do that every single day, you know?

Travis White (26:19)
Yeah, and that's for personal experience. I can say that's one of the hardest lessons I've had to learn was how to pick myself back up because I have a constant battle with anxiety and it just, you know, I get these loops where I just keep repeating myself and like do the same stuff, but to actually be able to, you know, fall over, have an off day, as you said, to pick yourself back up. That takes a lot of grit and resilience to be able to do that. So I, I

Jordan Turbyfill (26:47)
Yeah, that's.

Travis White (26:47)
applaud

you and anybody out there that's able to do that.

Jordan Turbyfill (26:52)
Yeah, I would say that's one thing that I feel like I'm, that's probably one of my biggest strengths is having a lot of grit and being persistent. You know, I've been, you know, some of the stuff I've told you, I could tell stories for, you know, years on some of the things that I've been through or seen or done to myself. And no matter what, I mean,

Travis White (27:07)
you

Jordan Turbyfill (27:14)
You gotta forgive yourself, love yourself, and just continue getting back on the horse and just keep riding. one of the things that I feel very strongly about is, man.

We're not guaranteed tomorrow. So the best thing that we can do is the most that we can do today. And with that being said, if you haven't done your burpees today, get your burpees in, let's go. And just watch how much better you feel. You know what I mean?

Travis White (27:50)
Yeah, and was there any point in your life or in your journey that you were, I'm trying to think of how to phrase this, that you were afraid of kind of repeating how your childhood was with your own children?

Jordan Turbyfill (28:08)
Yeah, 100%. 100%. ⁓

I that was... I've always been kind of afraid of... I shouldn't say afraid. For a long time I used to operate in that way, with fear. You know what I mean? But that's another thing that I like to push a lot, is like, no fear. It says it so many times in the Bible, no fear. You know what I mean? God loves you, God loves all of us.

and none of us should have any fear except for God. I mean, no parent is going to be perfect in their teachings, but the imperfect teachings are perfect because it's God's plan. And that's why today I've been able to forgive my mom. And I love my mom for the time that I did get with her. And she taught me so many things on what not to do.

And she's made her and my dad have made me such a better dad to my two year old that I mean, check on my Instagram. I'm always posting videos working out with him and you know, doing pushups with him on my back and stuff like that. And just trying to instill in him that hard work ethic and that, you know, positive mindset. And yeah, I mean, he's the laughiest.

giggly-est tough little dude I've ever met. it's such a blessing.

Travis White (29:40)
That's awesome and too, like that age is a fun age and you can tell that they're, I mean even before the personalities are starting to like develop, but you can, when they start speaking and doing all that stuff, can, a lot comes out.

Jordan Turbyfill (29:45)
yeah.

Yeah.

yeah,

he's like really trying to speak when my wife and I will like ask him a question or something like that. He'll go, just like all gibberish, but it's the funniest thing because you can tell he's like, he's trying to have a conversation with you, you know, it's so cute. But yeah, I mean, kids are the biggest blessing that we can have and the, you know, it's they,

Travis White (30:10)
Yeah.

It is.

Jordan Turbyfill (30:21)
The other thing too is like they repeat everything, you know? That's why I started to repeat what my mom taught me was because that's all I knew. That's all I grew up watching and seeing every single day. But we can always break those family traditions and you know, make our own by going through the pain of doing the work.

Travis White (30:25)
Mm-hmm.

Jordan Turbyfill (30:47)
internally on ourselves every single day.

Travis White (30:51)
What does your relationship with your parents look like now?

Jordan Turbyfill (30:55)
⁓ I talk to my dad every single day. He's like one of my best friends and he I mean he's grown a lot since You know since we were kids. He obviously went through a lot with my mom as well and ⁓ You know, obviously he knew everything whereas us kids didn't really have a full understanding of like what was going on So he had a couple years where he lost everything but then he you know, eventually got us back

and you know he's probably one of the hardest working people i've ever met my entire life he's like that for and guy since i could ever remember doesn't never miss is a day even on sundays you know and and my mom i've written her a few times and i talked around the phone she's in prison now and california

⁓ for manslaughter or murder and it's a tough pill to swallow but at the end of the day I had to kind break that relationship and just leave it to letters because she was essentially just begging for money and kind of

throwing off my vibration every day by calling me non-stop and as painful as it is, you know, I owe the best version of me for my family that I started and you know, that's what I choose to do. And I love my mom, I forgive my mom, but at end of day, she's

Travis White (32:18)
And that's.

Jordan Turbyfill (32:23)
still struggling with addiction and even in prison because they still get, you know, whatever they can to get themselves high in prison and yeah.

Travis White (32:36)
That's rough, man. Sorry to hear that. But it's one of those things that I can understand that you have to do what you have to do because you can't have the negativity affect you.

Jordan Turbyfill (32:38)
Yeah.

Yeah, 100%. And like some people, you know, I tried to be big and strong and those type of things. But when somebody's calling you nonstop and you know the only thing that they want is money and you can tell that they don't care about you and they don't care about your family that you started, you know, it's kind of like, yeah, it doesn't matter if it's your mom, your dad, your...

kids, your wife, it doesn't matter who it is, somebody's treating you that way, you have to be able to recognize it and do what's best for you and the people closest to you. The people closest to me is my family that I started. yeah, they definitely bring me lots of joy and happiness every day and I owe that to them to return the favor and refill their cups of happiness and joy as much as I possibly can.

Travis White (33:48)
I love that. It's like the family in general. I'm on the same pages here. They're my motivation a lot of times to wake up in the morning and do what I do, continue to do what I do.

Jordan Turbyfill (33:59)
Oh yeah.

Oh, a hundred percent. Yeah. Yeah. My, my family is definitely my why. Um, and, uh, yeah, it's like, we're so blessed today, you know, we're so blessed with today, with the ability to have this conversation, to try and build our own, um, to try and seek any and every opportunity that we possibly can to become whatever version of ourselves that we envision.

You know what I mean? God is so great and we are so blessed. It's unbelievable.

Travis White (34:33)
I 100 % agree with you man. I just have a few last questions here. You've answered most of them. Even though I feel like I could talk to you for hours. We've talked about multiple things and I could go so many different directions here.

Jordan Turbyfill (34:44)
yeah, 100%.

Travis White (34:53)
So Jordan, what beliefs did you have to unlearn to finally move forward with your life?

Jordan Turbyfill (35:00)
That's a great question. feel like I've had to unlearn a lot of things.

But it's hard to really pinpoint. I would say one of the biggest things is probably just...

You know, I used to hold grudges a lot and have this like pain of like, need to get this person back. You know? But once I learned forgiveness and the power of forgiveness is in in the forgiver, you know? You really, once you learn to forgive, you really release that pain.

onto the person that's done it to you and then it's up for them to forgive themselves, you know? And instead of holding grudges, just forgive, you know?

Travis White (35:52)
Yeah, that's a hard thing to learn too. I feel like in my life I look back and it's almost easier sometimes to hold grudges and just to not talk to that person than to actually find it within yourself to forgive them and actually speak about it again.

Jordan Turbyfill (35:55)
yeah.

Yep. Yep. And yeah, I would say. ⁓

Yeah, it's definitely one of hardest things. It's one of hardest things to learn, but it's very powerful.

Travis White (36:24)
So kind of just one last major question here and then just a few follow ups. What's your vision? If we were to check in with you in five years, what impact do you hope to have made with your, you know, just your basically positive mindset and teaching people this?

Jordan Turbyfill (36:41)
I

would love to be coaching and mentoring physical mindset, fitness and nutrition, coaching people. I've been coaching people currently, but I would love to be coaching thousands of young men and helping them to forgive their past and moving forward.

and to just build that best version of themselves to where they can give it back to society and to the people, you know, obviously closest to them and being a valuable asset to their family.

Travis White (37:24)
It's a really cool way to help people out.

Jordan Turbyfill (37:29)
Yeah. And I mean, one of the most important things for me too, is like dropping the vices. If I can get a thousand people to get sober and to start seeing their true potential, I would be, I feel like so fulfilled on my purpose that, you know, obviously there's no stopping there, but I've already had three people that I've helped get sober and just

Just the first person gave me so much.

gave me so much purpose, you know? And that's one of the main reasons why I come on the podcast and try and speak this into people. It's not for the money, it's not for anything. It's to just help other people to see and hopefully get sober and become the best version of themselves.

Travis White (38:20)
That's awesome. You're the reason, like stories like yours, why you bring to the table and offer my listeners. It's the reason why I keep doing this.

Jordan Turbyfill (38:34)
Awesome man.

Travis White (38:37)
So this is a kind of a generalized question and I ask it on every podcast. I like to hear the different responses I get. What do you think is the biggest stigma in relationship to mental health?

Jordan Turbyfill (38:52)
change.

biggest stigma.

I feel like...

most people

Hmm.

Most people lack action. There's so much knowledge out there and so many people who are looking for help, they put their action into research instead of action internally, instead of doing the work for themselves. But really, it's so simple to elevate your frequency and better your life.

takes time but like we're not promised tomorrow so if you get started today and you start putting in that action internally you're gonna see a more beautiful tomorrow you know what I mean

Travis White (39:57)
I love that because you can sit and read self-help books every day, all day, and in your mind you're thinking, ⁓ this could work, this could work, but until you actually take a step out and trust yourself to do the work, that's when you're going to see the full change.

Jordan Turbyfill (40:14)
100 % Yeah. Yup. Yeah, and like every day when you're stacking those wins, it's only gonna build more confidence for you to be able to stack more wins tomorrow. You know? And every day that passes of stacking wins internally that you chose to do, you know what I mean? It's gonna build massive amounts of confidence internally. So...

Travis White (40:17)
That is awesome.

percent.

Jordan Turbyfill (40:43)
That's what

I always push my clients to do. That's what I'm pushing y'all to do.

Travis White (40:49)
And the sir, no, Thinking back, again, my question is like, or I do it in a specific order. Can't tongue-tie here. Where can people find you?

Jordan Turbyfill (41:03)
Quickest way to find me is on Instagram. My handle on Instagram is 1.contract.flooring. And ⁓ you'll see on there I'm always posting videos of the work that we do with the flooring. Also, you know, a lot of the stuff that the family stuff, you know, working out. I'll post videos of the workouts. But if you message me on there,

Let me know you're from the podcast or you heard this podcast and I'd love to work with you and help you grow.

Travis White (41:31)
And last thing, is there anything that we have not discussed that you would like to bring up?

Jordan Turbyfill (41:39)
Man, yeah, you know what? Politics. Let's bring up politics real quick. I just want to say this. I just want to say this, you know, it's the easiest and most proven way to defeat your enemy is divide and conquer. Okay? So we all got to look past the division. We all got to look past the parties. We all got to come together.

Travis White (41:45)
Let's do it.

Jordan Turbyfill (42:06)
We all gotta look internally on ourselves and build ourselves so that we can all be a better part of society for each other.

Travis White (42:19)
Very well said. Very well said. There is a lot of division right now.

Jordan Turbyfill (42:22)
Awesome.

Yeah, it's division and distraction too, you know. Don't get too caught up in things that are out of our control. We can't get too caught up in things that are out of our control.

Travis White (42:29)
Mm-hmm.

Awesome.

Jordan Turbyfill (42:38)
Control

control the controllables is what I always tell myself, you know

Travis White (42:45)
That's one thing I've had to learn. Control everything you can. The rest of it just throw out the window.

Jordan Turbyfill (42:47)
yeah. Yeah.

Yep.

Travis White (42:52)
Awesome, well Jordan, thank you so much for being on the show. I really appreciate ⁓ your story and what you're doing to help people out. Like I said before, stories like yours that keep me going.

Jordan Turbyfill (43:03)
Awesome man. Appreciate you having me on the podcast.

Travis White (43:08)
Thank you to all that are listening. Best thing you can do is subscribe, follow, share, do whatever it is that you do to get the name of this podcast out there. Thanks again for listening. Until next time.

Lost my button.

Jordan Turbyfill (43:28)
Thank